tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post9123748214252173340..comments2023-06-02T15:46:37.487+02:00Comments on JOURNEY INTO ELDERHOOD: Naming FreeGrandmother Maryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-30337195211162505242012-08-14T14:07:47.439+02:002012-08-14T14:07:47.439+02:00What I've realized is how little help we got i...What I've realized is how little help we got in grieving this particular loss well, healthily. So we struggled and did the best we could. You did, I did, so many other women did. Good for us. But when I saw the deeper healing that was possible and got help to claim it, my whole experience changed. It's a beautiful sadness in my life now, and my daughter is named and held in a different way in my heart.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-48788618003986903652012-08-14T13:59:14.818+02:002012-08-14T13:59:14.818+02:00Loss is a powerful teacher.Loss is a powerful teacher.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-78468840020474161842012-08-14T13:57:29.085+02:002012-08-14T13:57:29.085+02:00Thank you for the sheer generosity of your comment...Thank you for the sheer generosity of your comment. It touches my heart and means so much to me. Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-18479623769133459352012-08-14T05:35:47.140+02:002012-08-14T05:35:47.140+02:00Ah, you named her! Wonderful.
I just looked upon ...Ah, you named her! Wonderful.<br /><br />I just looked upon mine as another failure, and moved to adoption. I'll need to think about this. Thanks.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-44835347787557041802012-08-13T23:53:14.200+02:002012-08-13T23:53:14.200+02:00I should have realized that your depth and charact...I should have realized that your depth and character didn't come from a shallow, easy life. This is very moving. Thank you for sharing it. Nancy/BLissed-Out Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17223278142557533175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-59902263569598027892012-08-13T20:47:19.086+02:002012-08-13T20:47:19.086+02:00I've read many poems that worked well with the...I've read many poems that worked well with the theme of this prompt, but yours is the first I've read that I think transcends it, into a place where beauty, love and sadness are equal and indistinguishable. Thank you for sharing a most difficult memory so well.hedgewitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13090696134322515899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-62885869678079889552012-08-13T17:34:33.211+02:002012-08-13T17:34:33.211+02:00Thank you - there's a lot of us out here.Thank you - there's a lot of us out here.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-21557829800895876372012-08-13T15:50:18.664+02:002012-08-13T15:50:18.664+02:00There are no words... As one who has lost children...There are no words... As one who has lost children, I can't tell you how true and precious this is. Name her free...<br /><br /><br />Exquisite!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-3276143900281752652012-08-13T15:46:14.272+02:002012-08-13T15:46:14.272+02:00Thank you. Yes, honor and place.Thank you. Yes, honor and place.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-52575503434575430182012-08-13T15:25:51.922+02:002012-08-13T15:25:51.922+02:00That is incredible. And such a visual I had in re...That is incredible. And such a visual I had in reading it. Giving her honor and place yet again. Just incredible. Light to you.Mental P Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957544840704376193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-40152304189544555872012-08-13T15:16:01.719+02:002012-08-13T15:16:01.719+02:00I, too, am deeply grateful and call that therapist...I, too, am deeply grateful and call that therapist's name to the universe for blessings.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-47979100349502811902012-08-13T15:14:02.614+02:002012-08-13T15:14:02.614+02:00I'm glad because that's what I hoped to co...I'm glad because that's what I hoped to convey.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-65404530325195490552012-08-13T15:10:39.078+02:002012-08-13T15:10:39.078+02:00I appreciate you saying that. It's the first t...I appreciate you saying that. It's the first thing I thought about when I read your prompt but hesitated to share it in the fear that it's too personal. But, it was a pivotal life experience for me and for so many women. I do feel calm about it now, all these years later, and grateful for the grace of finally being able to experience the beauty along with the sadness.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-21703567091193277702012-08-13T14:57:34.543+02:002012-08-13T14:57:34.543+02:00Not an easy topic so thanks for taking the time to...Not an easy topic so thanks for taking the time to read it and be affected by it.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-46132076174733594112012-08-13T14:12:11.411+02:002012-08-13T14:12:11.411+02:00Heartbreakingly sad poem here. But I am glad many...Heartbreakingly sad poem here. But I am glad many years later you DID, in therapy, name her, hold her, and talk to her. Thank you for your honesty and openness in sharing this hard experience.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07366010389846904663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-4827068036730908522012-08-13T13:54:57.355+02:002012-08-13T13:54:57.355+02:00This is a wonderful poem--so sad and vivid--of cou...This is a wonderful poem--so sad and vivid--of course, the experience itself is very powerful, but your retelling of it is so beautiful, and adds a great deal of meaning--it gives the reader something powerful to take away beside the sadness. k. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-77837017636471263192012-08-13T13:18:46.248+02:002012-08-13T13:18:46.248+02:00possibly one of the powerful things i have read in...possibly one of the powerful things i have read in a long long time. So honest, raw, but human, and the way you write about this tough tough subject is so- almost calm...like maybe you are showing how you have dealt with (i wont say overcome it- im not sure anything like this can truly be overcome)...but its this calmness, your eloquent delivery, combined with the raw emotion that makes this so beautifully sad. This is real, raw life, delivered so poetically....seriously- this blew me away...thank you so much for sharing thisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-25281995575515632642012-08-13T13:05:17.085+02:002012-08-13T13:05:17.085+02:00oh mary...this brought tears to my eyes.. and lost...oh mary...this brought tears to my eyes.. and lost for words..Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03011763027311966186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-54443371839589321482012-08-13T12:45:53.450+02:002012-08-13T12:45:53.450+02:00Yes. Yes. Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-48786629099209866422012-08-13T12:42:14.518+02:002012-08-13T12:42:14.518+02:00Rosaria, we have these sad experiences as humans, ...Rosaria, we have these sad experiences as humans, and get stronger in acknowledging our feelings to one another and finding we're not alone. You model that.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-34349433777002199012012-08-13T12:36:13.130+02:002012-08-13T12:36:13.130+02:00Thanks, I'd not thought of this experience tha...Thanks, I'd not thought of this experience that way before, but "beautiful sadness" seemed to capture it.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-27785689314867646622012-08-13T12:34:33.147+02:002012-08-13T12:34:33.147+02:00Stuck for so long while needing to be experienced ...Stuck for so long while needing to be experienced in a fuller way. I bless that therapist many times over for the opportunity.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-40336448551016471132012-08-13T12:30:23.189+02:002012-08-13T12:30:23.189+02:00Thank you for your heart felt reading.Thank you for your heart felt reading.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-63895018700850023792012-08-13T12:29:34.954+02:002012-08-13T12:29:34.954+02:00It's something we don't often talk about a...It's something we don't often talk about although so many women experience it and could offer solace and make us feel less alone. I'm grateful it comforted you.Grandmother Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18169464484379536529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7356093701102910263.post-70534605309137501782012-08-13T05:39:43.478+02:002012-08-13T05:39:43.478+02:00A sad loss to experience.A sad loss to experience.Terra https://www.blogger.com/profile/04396481049075747940noreply@blogger.com