21 October 2011

Talking is Good, But We Knew That



My Honey and I were reading about stress reduction the other day. We knew the secret from experience: "talk to each other." Turns out that we were right all along. You've read all the suggestions for handling stress: exercise, meditate, breath. All good. But now they're finding that talking to your spouse or loved ones reduces stress the best. 38 years of marriage taught us that, but it's good to have research back us up. We should have written a book.

It seems too simple, doesn't it? Just talk. Tell folks that care about you and that you care about how you're feeling. Women do that with one another fairly easily on a regular basis but it's good for men too. Talk to your spouse, talk to another trusted relative, talk to a close friend. Do it often. They know you and love you. They hold your highest good in their heart. We're made for that love. It's good for us.




Have a great weekend.

10 comments:

  1. Great advice. Much can be accomplished by just talking.

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  2. Sally, And getting over ourselves to do it.

    Rosaria, É vero, giusto.

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  3. Wise advice. Not talking is not only stressful, it has led to the demise of many a marriage.

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  4. I do not know, its good to give any comment on that, i am not mature enough,:).but i like your idea for the couples.

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  5. Patti, Communication is key.

    Sunny, Talking together is good at any age, and how much better to start younger!

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  6. I am a natural communicator, and without it I flounder. But it isn't always easy to nudge others into it. I think there is a beautiful confluence of empowerment of self, and disempowering of problems, that happens when people talk. Imagine the world's conflicts being solved by talking. What a concept! (If only women ruled ...)

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  7. AFter 31 years of marriage, I have found this to be true. We are closer now than we've ever been. I enjoy your posts; we spent a month in Italy in May, and it was the most enchanting experience ever!

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  8. Ruth, (if only women ruled)- now you're on to something big, important, pivotal. The nudging to communicate can be delicate but if the problems of the most intimate of relationships can be solved by talking, why not the world's?

    Monica, Welcome and thanks for stopping by. Marriage is quite a training ground, but the rewards? Ahhh. I'm glad you enjoyed Italy so much. The treasures seem inexhaustible at times.

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